Which type of fear is stopping you?
Some say that fear is a great motivator and for some people it is. The fear of failing, loss or facing consequences can give us the will to thrive under pressure and help us complete tasks that would otherwise go unfinished.
For others it can literally cause life to come to a screeching halt. It’s like being held hostage, unable to move forward or make a decision without being afraid of the consequences.
Being held captive by your fear, (even a small fear) is one of the worst feelings in the world. It can immobilize you, rob you of your freedom and keep you from living the life you deserve.
Understanding your fear is one of the first steps to managing it and eventually conquering it. Most forms of fear can be broken down into three basic categories external, internal, or subconscious.
Among the three, subconscious and internal fears are most difficult to live with and find treatment for because the person suffering from this the debilitating condition must first realize they have a problem and need help. They must also recognize source of their fear so that they can take necessary steps to overcome it. By identifying the type of fear that is holding you back, you will be able to learn effective methods of controlling it.
First let’s discuss
– External Fears
An external fear is one is the easiest to diagnose and manage. It is similar to phobias where an outside source causes stress or anxiety that automatically triggers your brain to react.
For example, fear of, spiders, heights and flying are among the most common phobias that millions of people suffer with every day. They experience (sometimes-severe) anxiety or discomfort whenever they are in a situation where they’re confronted with particular triggers.
Sometimes even the thought of a spider will send someone with arachnophobia screaming out of the room. Since the source of this type of fear is easier to identify, the person suffering can seek help finding alternative ways to manage, confront and even overcome the fear.
Most external fears are related to negative life experiences. For instance, someone who fell from a tree as a child may be afraid of heights as an adult. Since they know the root cause of their fear, they will have better understanding of the problem and be able to seek out specific treatments and techniques to help manage their anxiety in stressful situations.
Often time’s hypnosis is a viable option for people with external fears. A hypnotherapist can employ psychological methods in order to erase any previous negative associations you have with the root cause of your fear.
– Internal Fears
This type of fear is closely associated with low levels of confidence or lack of self-esteem. Yet, just like external fear, the triggers come from an outside source, which produces negative feelings and emotions.
This trigger then produces internal reactions such as self-doubt, questioning capabilities and in severe cases, causes self-loathing. Most often, when people begin to question their own abilities, failure is unavoidable. This type of fear often affects a person’s ability to interact in social situations as well.
To learn how to effectively manage and eventually conquer internal types of fear, you often have to go back at your childhood years during the time when character development was at its peak, because this is when most internal fears develop. Dealing with this type of fear often requires the help of a healthcare professional who can show you how to gain a new perspective in life and modify certain behaviors that trigger your insecurities and fears.
– Subconscious Fears
This type of fear is produced when your mind accepts certain beliefs as reality, even if they are untrue or unfounded. This severe form of fear limits your potential, prevents you from doing things and often leads to self-sabotage. It is often associated with extreme cases of internal fear and causes the sufferer to question their abilities. Which reinforces their feelings of self-doubt and negative self-talk.
Learning to live with this type of fear often requires the help of a healthcare professional who can show you how to take active steps towards reversing negative beliefs and replacing them with positive reinforcements, so that you can regain control of your life.
– Overcoming Fears
When it comes to coping with and overcoming fears most people are reluctant to address the problem. Sometimes it’s because they lack the proper motivation, but often it’s because they are unable or simply afraid to face their fear head on, which is ultimately the only way you can gain control of it.
Identifying the type of fear you’re suffering from is the first step towards abolishing it from your life. It will also help you decide whether or not you need to seek the help of a healthcare professional. After you have identified the source of your problem, you can develop a plan to conquer it.
My next blog will focus on the negative impact of fear and why it shouldn’t be ignored.